Coaching is a privilege. It allows me to meet people in their raw, unfiltered moments—when they are feeling lost, overwhelmed, or simply looking for a way forward. Over time, I have noticed patterns, yes—but what truly stands out are the nuances. The deeply personal ways in which each person experiences and navigates life.
Here are five things I have come to believe through this work:
- Every Struggle is Unique
Two people might be facing what looks like the same problem—feeling stuck, doubting themselves, juggling too much—but the weight of it, the reasons behind it, the way it sits in their life is never the same. What matters most is listening—not just to what is being said, but also to what is not.
- Growth Has to Be Wanted
Change can be necessary, even urgent. But real growth only begins when someone genuinely wants it. No amount of external pressure or perfectly structured plans can substitute that internal ‘yes’. The most lasting shifts come when the readiness comes from within.
- There is No One-Size-Fits-All
Even when problems sound similar, the way each person processes and approaches them makes all the difference. One might feel stuck and spiral, another might feel stuck and get quietly determined. Coaching is not about offering solutions—it is about helping people see things in a way that works for them.
- Connection Goes Beyond Language
A friend once asked me, “Which language do you dream in?” That question has stayed with me. I have learned that as long as someone is fluent in even two languages, we all find a way to connect. It’s not about perfect sentences—it is about shared understanding, intent, and heart.
- A Little Humanity Goes a Long Way
Deadlines, responsibilities, pressures—they do not go away. But what softens them is how we show up for each other. A little kindness, a pause to check in, a genuine word—that is often enough to help someone feel seen. And when people feel seen, they open up. That is when the real work begins.
What stays with me the most are not the outcomes or breakthroughs, but those quiet moments—when someone reconnects with themselves, finds a bit of clarity, or simply breathes easier. That is what makes this work worth it. Every single time.